Post by jelanismom on Dec 19, 2008 15:31:17 GMT -5
I sent this to my good friend googsimama in Oregan, lol
I'm still upset about the whole thing. She's consoling me. Ilove you Jenn.
and Nancy too. Ok here's the stupid letter. Your comments are welcome. I just don't know who to send it to. i'm still very hurt that I can't think straight. (good excuse right? lol 
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_______ _______ School
I am the parent of Jelani Yorke who is a student in Mrs.__'s Special Education class. I attended the Holiday Caroling and the wonderful class party. As I was leaving Mrs.___'s class to go home, I approached the playground gate and there stood two little boys, one of which was holding himself and saying he had wet his pants. The other little boy said that the teacher Mrs. A___ wanted him to go to the office. They were opening the gate by themselves. I walked through it and the little boy followed. I said “ok, I’ll help you sweetheart”, and we headed towards the office 10 yards away. But before we got there, principal M___ was headed to the bathroom. I asked her if she could help him and she said NO, she couldn’t and she boldly said “And I don’t know WHAT you are doing with him!” I proceded to the office as the principal went into the bathroom. I was very distraught by her words. I explained to the office manager what happened. Then no sooner than I finish explaining, in walks the principal who then blurted out in a very harsh tone, “You should not have this boy, you have no credentials, you are NOT authorized!" and she walked into her office. I said” I’m not what?” She then came out and repeated herself as onlookers and children were present. I was humiliated. She then quickly left saying she had an assembly. I don’t remember who took the boy at this point, I was in tears. I asked the office manager if the principal is always this way. I said I was offended and publically humiliated and that I want to set up an appointment to speak with her. The manager wrote my phone number down and I left and sat in my car crying. It wasn’t supposed to be this way, especially after the beautiful holiday festivities that I enjoyed moments earlier.
I want to mention that my son and I are alone here in California without family to celebrate Christmas with. I had so looked forward to this day at my son’s school with anticipation as this was the only day we would be celebrating with others. It has now been tainted and ruined in my memory forever. The principal called and apologized that she had not known that this boy had come through the gate with me. She explained something about a parent and law enforcement or something in the past, which I can’t recall her exact words as I was so disheartened by the whole thing. I want to say that I am not only the nicest person, but being a single parent to a special needs son has given me more strength and insight into all children and I have more patience and understanding than I ever imagined I could. I can’t understand how assisting the boy with wet pants to the office when no adult supervision is present, makes me a bad person. I further cannot fathom the contemptive words spoken by the principal as if I was out to harm this student. All of this is so unfortunate. There are times that I know I must choose my battles, but this display of blatent disrespect by the principal is inexcusable. Her harshness towards me and how she publically humiliated me is wrong. Nobody, no parent, no one at all should have to be treated this way. I am seriously contemplating removing my son from this school and the great program he attends in Mrs.___'s class because of this situation. And it’s not the first time I have been spoken to this way by the prinicipal. I needed my voice to be heard. Thankyou for reading and may you have a peaceful and joyous holiday season.
Dawn
Parent to Jelani.
I'm still upset about the whole thing. She's consoling me. Ilove you Jenn.
and Nancy too. Ok here's the stupid letter. Your comments are welcome. I just don't know who to send it to. i'm still very hurt that I can't think straight. (good excuse right? lol 
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_______ _______ School
I am the parent of Jelani Yorke who is a student in Mrs.__'s Special Education class. I attended the Holiday Caroling and the wonderful class party. As I was leaving Mrs.___'s class to go home, I approached the playground gate and there stood two little boys, one of which was holding himself and saying he had wet his pants. The other little boy said that the teacher Mrs. A___ wanted him to go to the office. They were opening the gate by themselves. I walked through it and the little boy followed. I said “ok, I’ll help you sweetheart”, and we headed towards the office 10 yards away. But before we got there, principal M___ was headed to the bathroom. I asked her if she could help him and she said NO, she couldn’t and she boldly said “And I don’t know WHAT you are doing with him!” I proceded to the office as the principal went into the bathroom. I was very distraught by her words. I explained to the office manager what happened. Then no sooner than I finish explaining, in walks the principal who then blurted out in a very harsh tone, “You should not have this boy, you have no credentials, you are NOT authorized!" and she walked into her office. I said” I’m not what?” She then came out and repeated herself as onlookers and children were present. I was humiliated. She then quickly left saying she had an assembly. I don’t remember who took the boy at this point, I was in tears. I asked the office manager if the principal is always this way. I said I was offended and publically humiliated and that I want to set up an appointment to speak with her. The manager wrote my phone number down and I left and sat in my car crying. It wasn’t supposed to be this way, especially after the beautiful holiday festivities that I enjoyed moments earlier.
I want to mention that my son and I are alone here in California without family to celebrate Christmas with. I had so looked forward to this day at my son’s school with anticipation as this was the only day we would be celebrating with others. It has now been tainted and ruined in my memory forever. The principal called and apologized that she had not known that this boy had come through the gate with me. She explained something about a parent and law enforcement or something in the past, which I can’t recall her exact words as I was so disheartened by the whole thing. I want to say that I am not only the nicest person, but being a single parent to a special needs son has given me more strength and insight into all children and I have more patience and understanding than I ever imagined I could. I can’t understand how assisting the boy with wet pants to the office when no adult supervision is present, makes me a bad person. I further cannot fathom the contemptive words spoken by the principal as if I was out to harm this student. All of this is so unfortunate. There are times that I know I must choose my battles, but this display of blatent disrespect by the principal is inexcusable. Her harshness towards me and how she publically humiliated me is wrong. Nobody, no parent, no one at all should have to be treated this way. I am seriously contemplating removing my son from this school and the great program he attends in Mrs.___'s class because of this situation. And it’s not the first time I have been spoken to this way by the prinicipal. I needed my voice to be heard. Thankyou for reading and may you have a peaceful and joyous holiday season.
Dawn
Parent to Jelani.
