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Post by CC on Dec 21, 2008 0:50:06 GMT -5
Kodi Lee just got home a few hours ago from her week long trip to Disney. K, that is all good and we are happy she is home BUT OMG Colin and I go out of our way to keep this whole trip from Chris... K, you guys that have been at Uno for a while know why that is. She and her boyfriend come in tonight with gifts form their trip and photos and bla bla bla and Chris is now thinking we are all going for Christmas Break which we are not You have to know the history of my Chris and Disney to really understand... I know in the big picture this is small BUT in Christopher's life believe me this is BIG Since Kodi Lee had not returned from College yet Colin and I thought it best to just keep saying Kodi was still at school and would be home today. We thought we were all on the same page But we were not and Kodi let the beans out of the bag and he now knows we lied and I feel like dirt, KWIM... Another life lesson for me just tell the truth and let the cards fall where they do MUCH better in the long run... Just needed to share my little well BIG dilemma in Christopher's life... THANKS for listening. CC ~
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Post by Ericsmomma on Dec 21, 2008 7:16:50 GMT -5
Ouch! Maybe all the Christmas excitement will help Christopher focus on the Holidays instead of ....dare I say it....Disney! Good luck!
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Post by Emilysmom on Dec 21, 2008 7:38:18 GMT -5
YIKES indeed!!! I hate that it had to happen like this, CC. As one who thought it would work perfectly for Kodi to just go straight to Disney and then come home.........I'm sorry. She didn't have to lie about it.......just not mention it at all! Susan
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Post by wrblack on Dec 21, 2008 8:02:52 GMT -5
See?! Tried to tell you that Disney is bad. I tell people that "Mickey" is a bad word. Doesn't work in my house either! So, when is Chris going to WDW? Think they've got stay 4 nights and get 3 free deal going right now. But probably not for the resorts you'd want. Have fun. -- Bob
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Post by Googsmom aka Jennifer on Dec 21, 2008 9:30:23 GMT -5
{{{HUGS}}}} Lesson learned eigh? I'm sorry it happened like this CC
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Post by Tammy on Dec 21, 2008 9:52:14 GMT -5
CC... Im sorry, but on this one, I think I have to stick my neck out an go with Kodi-Lee...
She has worked hard and earned then taken the trip of a lifetime.
You and Hubby can keep it shush, but seriously... Kodi-Lee doesnt need to be made to feel bad about her acheivements.
I know you guys have issues with Chris and it is not at all fun or eay to deal with... but on this one, I kinda feel like you are putting Chris first and putting Koi-Lee's life aside to accommodate his issues.
I know I am not usually one to stir the pot.... but something in this thread sits uneasy with me... I am sure you KWIM...
I really think Kodi needs to be able to celebrate, and celebrate LOUD...
And the rest is just fallout that will take some time to deal with.
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Post by Emilysmom on Dec 21, 2008 13:08:38 GMT -5
Tammy, I totally get where you're coming from too. And, it is a good "life lesson" to be learned that sometimes things aren't "fair"...........some people get to do very cool things; especially when they get older.
CC~ When Kodi was planning this trip; when you first posted about it; did you talk with her about your feelings about it? Did she agree to enjoy the trip and then come home and not mention it, and then changed her mind and decided to just "bring a piece of Disney" home with her in the gifts and photos? I can see it both ways, really. At any rate, I'm sorry Chris has another Disney disappointment now. But, as Dolly said, maybe the excitement of Christmas will help.
Susan
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Post by faithhope on Dec 21, 2008 13:43:12 GMT -5
I am sorry to hear that. I know we always want to protect our kids, and probably more so our special ones. Don't beat yourself up. Love, Jess
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Post by CC on Dec 21, 2008 22:44:50 GMT -5
LOL Dolly you can say Disney here as Chris doesn't read here LOL Susan that was the agreement No lieing for her about it just not talk about this particular trip in front of Chris. Seems the mix up on both our parts was Kodi was fine keeping it from Chris BUT she seem to think it was just before she went and then once she was home she thought it was OK to mention. Which yes it is always fine for her to mention anything to any of us BUT I thought and miss communication that this particular tirp was just going to not be mentioned or I never would have told him she was in school. LOL Bob well if you ask Chris he will tell you NOW. Funny I did check out the flights and Man oh Man they are so reasonable right now. BUT with the way the economy is right now and us having to purchase some very big equipment for our company I think it will not be to next Christmas. Unless you guys are going soon and want some extra company LOL Tammy, Hmmm I think its one of those things you just have to live and experience to get it, KWIM? Honestly sometimes Kodi Lee is put first and sometimes Chris is put first and sometimes BOTH are put first... Two individual children with individual needs... Believe me Kodi Lee Celebrates lots and we are ALL right there with her celebrating. When she went to London just 7 or 8 months back it was celebrated by us all. When she is in a play it is celebrated by us all. When ever anything goes on for Kodi we all are the first to be happy for here ... BUT Disney sorry I really think if you took Chris for a week you might get it, LOL I told Kodi Lee you can travel anywhere in this world but just don't go to Disney without your bro ;D She doesn't feel bad about her going on this trip actually she had a MARVELOUS time and is trying to talk Colin and I to plan a Disney trip in January to make Chris feel better and she of course said she would be more then willing to go back again LOL I guess this might be one of those things that doesn't come off clear in writing KWIM. You really have to know my boy and walk the walk daily with my Chris to really know... Kodi may be traveling again this summer or next year for sure and Chris Colin and I are thrilled for her. I don't lie to Chris and didn't want to lie where his Sis was but I thought for him the way he is obsessed was better for him to just think she was still at school. THANKS Jess for the reminder and No I will not beat myself up over this, but my heart did hurt for Chris KWIM? Oh well I learned the hard way on this one. CC ~
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Post by damarasmom on Dec 21, 2008 22:55:22 GMT -5
Bummer! Sorry that Chris found out like this. I sure hope that Christmas and gifts will soften the pain...if not, looks like you are going to make another trip really soon. Enjoy your Holidays!
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Post by wrblack on Dec 22, 2008 12:04:27 GMT -5
Oh, and if it would help any, though probably a bit small for Christopher, Charlie would be willing to lend him his shirt. Can't quite see it all, but it says, "Dear Santa, Save Time And Skip My Sister!!!" -- Happy Holidays, Bob
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Post by rickismom on Dec 22, 2008 18:08:15 GMT -5
Oh BOY!!!!!! anyway, I think you should explain to him : 1. You know how much he wants to go 2 Why you lied 3 it was a wrong choice that you regret 4 parents sometimes make mistakes, too 5 you will never lie again 6 you hope he will be mature enough to realize that he can't always go to Disny 7 You do hope to go again someday (if true) He can learn: you also make poor choices a person who makes mistakes admits Good luck!!
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Post by Emilysmom on Dec 22, 2008 21:18:08 GMT -5
ROFL Bob! Now, this shirt is GREAT!! And I love the precious expression on Charlie's face!
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Post by Jessie on Dec 23, 2008 10:49:09 GMT -5
First, glad to hear she had a great time! Trust me when I say I'm not trying to insult his intelligence, but do you think Chris made the connection that you were telling him she was at school when in fact she was in Disney? I ask that knowing that for Jason he would never make that connection. Also, I guess it was technically lying, but don't we as parents have to make decisions to do things like that sometimes in order to protect our kids' feelings? I just hate to see you beating yourself up for "lying" if he doesn't realize that you did and you were doing it with good intentions , KWIM? You guys (including Kodi) handled it the best you could given his obsession about Disney. It just sucks that he gets so disappointed when there's no travel plans in place!! Jessie P.S. - Love the shirt Bob. Jason had a similar themed one after I had Ellie, "Lost Dog and Sister . . . Reward for Dog".
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Post by jelanismom on Dec 23, 2008 12:29:25 GMT -5
Wow I hate enjoying this thread at your expense CC! It's food for thought...and it's keeping me from doing all the chores I have set up for today...given there's 2 days till Christmas!!!!eeeeek! Ok here's 2 more cents for you. Hope you have room for a little more pocket change. I do NOT think you were lying. Although I won't say I told ya so...I DID think the cat should have stayed out of the bag. lol Where Kodi is concerned, it would have been worse I think for Chris if she had kept it a secret once she came home...and had hidden her keepsake items from the trip....then Chris finding them and finding out *that* way. CC, it's not lying, you withheld information. Technically Kodi WAS at school...Chris doesn't know how long she was at Disney, does he? She could have spent part of the time at school on her vacation...(just a thought) and Disney was a last second thing. I know it's late in the game to be mentioning all this. Does Chris know any of the truth? In the long run, I truely don't think it makes anyone look bad...there are indeed times people in life change their minds/plans. Kodi going doesn't seem so awful if Chris knows people do change their plans. And CC, he can't be upset at you because you may not have known Kodi's (for example) last minute trip plan w/o Chris. KWIM? I agree with Susan, it was a hard lesson learned. But I agree with you CC...we don't know Chris's infatuation with Disney! **on a side note: Jessie, I too wonder about the connection being made...but I'll tell you something funny...Jelani is making connections that I don't even realize till the next day or two later when I think back about it. (his Mom is the slow thinker here...omg!) We played for 2 minutes the other nite with a new Garfield storybook...we we're acting out the characters. Then he went to sleep. The next day in the afternoon he repeated some of the same parts we were acting out! This is from a 2 minute playtime the night before with a new book!!! I guess it made such an impression on him! (btw, he's still in the 2-3 word stage...very delayed verbally). But his memory kicks butt!!! ;D
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