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Post by mumofnoah on Jul 5, 2004 8:26:37 GMT -5
I have only been online to you all for such a short time but this is the only place I can go where someone will understand. Noah is in hospital again. The hospital is an hours drive from home and my other two children are extremely sick too. Hannah, our two and half year old had an xray to see if she has pneumonia and Elijah, our 15 month old is also coughing his head off. Noah is desating to 70 when he is awake and on O2. This is really scaring me. I'm not sure if I can go on doing this. I have heard of mothers who have walked away from situations like this and I know I couldn't do that, but i'm pretty close. I don't really expect anyone to answer this, I just needed to vent.
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Post by Debi on Jul 5, 2004 8:43:11 GMT -5
Ohhhhh believe us; it's way okay to vent esp. now during this very stressful time. Sometimes knowing you CAN vent is the only way to save sanity!!! I simply hope that all three are very very soon on the mend and that alone will help a great deal. I know it's hard but I am sure Noah is getting wonderful care at the hospital. Maybe you can concentrate on Hannah and Elijah right now and let the hospital focus on Noah. Lots of positive health thoughts to you & the kiddos!
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Post by justinsmom on Jul 5, 2004 10:18:27 GMT -5
First off HUGE HUGS and PRAYERS headed your way. Believe me I have been there plenty of times in the beginning, even thought about selling the house and buying a room at the Med Inn, the hotel connected to the hospital. Justin was also a major desatter, it does get overwhelming and it's ok to vent away. Ok little ones get better soon.
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Post by momofrussell on Jul 5, 2004 10:29:49 GMT -5
BIG HUGS to you!!! Vent away to us!!! I am sooooo sorry the kids are really sick, and Noah's in the hospital to boot! Do you have any family members or friends that can either stay with the kids while you are at the hospital, or be at the hospital for support for Noah while you are home with the kids??? That might help. I wouldn't want you to "go it alone". We all have adverse thoughts from time to time in life, about all sorts of things, so having thoughts of "walking away" is just a normal part of the grieving and pain you are experiencing. It doens't mean we act on them, it just means we are human Try and be strong for the kids. I know that is easier said than done.. but try. Come here if you need to cry, vent, scream, escape, what ever... and don't hold your emotions back at home if it can't be helped... I know it's hard to stay stong for the kids AND cry.. but if you let it out, maybe you can focus on what is best... I hope that made sense LOL Hugs and Prayers A.
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Post by iamamom on Jul 5, 2004 12:13:50 GMT -5
I have only been here a short time also, but I know how you feel. My daughter was also in the hospital and I still had six more kids at home. You feel lost and alone. What helped the most was that I had help from my family, friends and church family. They were a huge help.
I encourage you to tell someone how you are feeling. You may be surprised how many people want to help and support you during this really difficult time.
I hope the kids are all feeling better soon and that you find the moral support you need.
Praying for you,
Diane
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Post by shellk on Jul 5, 2004 12:35:57 GMT -5
Honey I am soooooooo sorry that all of your little ones are ill and especially sorry to hear tha Noah is in the hospital again..I have had those same thoughts on my end and sometimes I just sit and cry asking WHY? I am sending BIG HUGS and tons of positive energy to you in hopes that things will brighten up on your end. Good Luck, Michele Hope that all the kids get better quickly!!!
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Post by Robin on Jul 5, 2004 12:44:13 GMT -5
Oh Bless your heart!! You vent anytime you want for as long as you want! Haivng Noah in the hospital and Hannah and Elijah home sick sucks and isnt fair!!!! I said a prayer they get well fast so it is one less thing on your plate of life right now!! I wish we all lived closer so we could be beside you to help out!!! remember one day at a time, I have used that so often to get me thru the tough times! And btw, it is perfectly ok to wish you could just walk away and forget all the problems, pretty normal too I think!!!! {{{HUGSS}}}...Robin
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Post by Emilysmom on Jul 5, 2004 12:44:28 GMT -5
Man!! You've had a LOT to have to cope with lately!!! That has to be very very hard. Pleae do not feel badly for expressing your stress and frustrations. We've all been through rough times and believe me.....we understand. We're here for you!! Please feel free to vent any time. I hope you have a support system that can help you physically get through this.....emotionally, we'll help in any way we can. Cyberhugs to you and the whole family!! Susan
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Post by rickismom on Jul 5, 2004 16:08:30 GMT -5
Remember the old ad "When it rains,it pours"? That's how it is at times. Hang in and accept whatever help you can get.
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Post by updowns on Jul 5, 2004 17:31:04 GMT -5
(((Hugs))) to you girl! I'm not surprised you're not coping. Prayers heading your way that all your babies get well soon.
And don't beat yourself up and come here anytime to vent, we've all done it and it's great to have somewhere to let rip.
Stella
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Post by christie on Jul 5, 2004 21:15:15 GMT -5
Vent away anytime girl, YIKES 3 children sick and one of them in the hospital is enough to push anyone over the edge
You need help and you need to ask people for help they can't read minds. Not sure but from reading your post, I get the idea you are not one to ask for help, just as I am and its not a good way to be. Sometimes we just CAN't do it all alone.
Many Many prayers going out from New Jersey that your little ones are better PRONTO and Many HUGS to you.
CC
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Post by MaggiesMom on Jul 5, 2004 22:23:30 GMT -5
We're praying for you. Don't be shy...call all yoru friends, neighbors, family, everyone and ask for help!!! People will come running when they realize you need them. Trust me!
People often want to help but just don't know how. Make a list of things people can do for you. Even if it's do the laundry and dishes! Who cares if they see something you wouldn't want them to see otherwise...you need some help! Go for it!
Take care. Hug those kids close.
Robin M - Maggie's mom
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Post by catherine on Jul 5, 2004 22:55:25 GMT -5
I'm sorry that things are so tough. It's hard enough having 3 little ones and adjusting to a diagnosis without all the health issues and your other kids falling sick as well.
I don't know where you are located or what hospital little Noah is in. Ask your hospital if they have accommodation where you can stay for a couple of days. I know the children's hospital in Sydney have rooms that they can give parents of sick babies to stay overnight. Even if you just saved yourself one days travelling it may help. Also I agree with the other posters ask for help, you will be surprised how many people would love to help.
My other suggestion is to ring the DSA. They will most likely have lots of suggestions and they may be able to put you in contact with associations that could help in regards to respite and home help. I don't know what's available but I'm sure they would point you in the right direction.
Also if you 'd like to exchange email addresses or anything just yell out.
And don't beat up on yourself, we all have days when we become overwhelmed.
Catherine.
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Post by Claire on Jul 5, 2004 23:16:29 GMT -5
First of all, don't ever worry about venting. I do lots of it. ;D. This forum is for support and let me tell you that you will get it. As for walking away, I felt that too when Adam was continuously sick. But just thinking about it is OK. We are mothers not robots and the human mind can sometimes only take so much, so don't even feel guilty it is a norml response.You need some TLC and some rest. Hope things go better next week. Take it one week at a time, I do it and it sems to be working for me. You can also e-mail me at my personal address if you wish. Claire
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Post by mumofnoah on Jul 6, 2004 10:08:12 GMT -5
Thanks to you all for your encouragement. I have been to the hospital today and Noah is getting worse. He has an enormous cough and his breathing is extremely laboured. Tomorrow (7/7/04) I will be heading down to the hospital early to have a 'sit-down' meeting with Noah's drs. I have heaps of questions so I hope they are ready. The great thing is that Hannah does not have Pneumonia, which was early thought. She and Elijah have still got bad coughs but I am assured by my GP that they will be fine. Thanks again for your prayers and love. Noah really needs a miracle, as do many of your children, so I'm praying for them all. My family (from interstate) are coming to visit this weekend for my mothers 60th birthday. I am really looking forward to seeing everyone. We were going to go to her but seeing as Noah is in hospital they are coming to us. I'll keep you all informed as to how he is going. Thanks again.
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