Post by Emilysmom on Feb 18, 2006 11:35:38 GMT -5
This is an exciting post for me, and yet I feel I have to do a "true confessions" sort of thing too!! I hope I can explain.........I'm afraid it might be a long one!
Emily's school sent home a newsletter a couple weeks ago stating that they were doing a Valentine's dance. Emily went to one of them last year, and even invited a boy to go with her and it went very well. BUT, that boy and lots of the boys Emily knows well are in the 6th grade this year and the 5th/6th grade dance was done at a totally different time this year. SO...........I admit that I was OVERLY worried about her. Did NOT want her to get her feelings hurt and could not think of any boy she could dance with in the 7th grade, and decided it would be less "risky" for her to not go than to possibly get her feelings hurt by some of the 7th/8th grade boys who are so into being "cool" lately. So, I tell her that maybe it would be better to wait till next year's dance when the guys she knows so well will be in 7th grade and she could go with one of them. She sighs but agrees with me and I'm totally relieved. WHEW!!!
Then, I get to work and get a phone call from one of her teachers saying that they know Emily wants to go to the dance, but does not have her money ($5) for the ticket. I basically explained to her about my concerns and that I thought for this dance, Emily would just not go. She suggested that maybe we should just ask EMILY what she wanted to really do..........and go from there. (LOL Ya think???) So, later she calls back and says that Emily REALLY wants to go. DH takes the $5 to the school, I come home from work a bit early to help Em get ready, and she is SO excited!!! MOM, however, is still nervous. Will I ever get over this?????
So, I take her to the dance and I see that lots of parents are sticking around and talking. So, I too decided to stay and non-chalantly watch. Several girls immediately came up to Emily to complement her on her outfit, and then everyone sort of just began to dance either alone or in groups. There really was not much dancing between boys and girls for 45 minutes or so. Emily danced every single dance! She didn't stop to get pizza, or to just hang out..........danced non-stop!!! At one point, a boy came up and asked her to dance a slow dance, and they ended up dancing several times together. Emily had the BEST time last night!!!
Just a few observations from this experience:
*I am afraid I tend to worry excessively and try to "protect" Emily way too much from even the possibility of getting her feelings hurt. (she certainly wasn't the BEST dancer in the group, but also not the worst by a long shot! And I don't think there was a kid there who had more fun than Em!!) I'm going to have to really work on this.......I could be limiting her by MY fears, you know???
*A "disappointing" thing was that most of the girls who I have always considered to be Emily's best friends from kindergarten on..........seemed to be too busy to do more than say HI to her last night. They now appear to be the most popular girls in the school, and seemed more like high school girls than 7th graders. It's like they have "forgotten" her, and I hate that. Although, there were quite a few other girls who included her very naturally last night.
Could it be that "I" am more concerned with Emily's differences than she is??? Sigh..........
Susan
Emily's school sent home a newsletter a couple weeks ago stating that they were doing a Valentine's dance. Emily went to one of them last year, and even invited a boy to go with her and it went very well. BUT, that boy and lots of the boys Emily knows well are in the 6th grade this year and the 5th/6th grade dance was done at a totally different time this year. SO...........I admit that I was OVERLY worried about her. Did NOT want her to get her feelings hurt and could not think of any boy she could dance with in the 7th grade, and decided it would be less "risky" for her to not go than to possibly get her feelings hurt by some of the 7th/8th grade boys who are so into being "cool" lately. So, I tell her that maybe it would be better to wait till next year's dance when the guys she knows so well will be in 7th grade and she could go with one of them. She sighs but agrees with me and I'm totally relieved. WHEW!!!
Then, I get to work and get a phone call from one of her teachers saying that they know Emily wants to go to the dance, but does not have her money ($5) for the ticket. I basically explained to her about my concerns and that I thought for this dance, Emily would just not go. She suggested that maybe we should just ask EMILY what she wanted to really do..........and go from there. (LOL Ya think???) So, later she calls back and says that Emily REALLY wants to go. DH takes the $5 to the school, I come home from work a bit early to help Em get ready, and she is SO excited!!! MOM, however, is still nervous. Will I ever get over this?????
So, I take her to the dance and I see that lots of parents are sticking around and talking. So, I too decided to stay and non-chalantly watch. Several girls immediately came up to Emily to complement her on her outfit, and then everyone sort of just began to dance either alone or in groups. There really was not much dancing between boys and girls for 45 minutes or so. Emily danced every single dance! She didn't stop to get pizza, or to just hang out..........danced non-stop!!! At one point, a boy came up and asked her to dance a slow dance, and they ended up dancing several times together. Emily had the BEST time last night!!!
Just a few observations from this experience:
*I am afraid I tend to worry excessively and try to "protect" Emily way too much from even the possibility of getting her feelings hurt. (she certainly wasn't the BEST dancer in the group, but also not the worst by a long shot! And I don't think there was a kid there who had more fun than Em!!) I'm going to have to really work on this.......I could be limiting her by MY fears, you know???
*A "disappointing" thing was that most of the girls who I have always considered to be Emily's best friends from kindergarten on..........seemed to be too busy to do more than say HI to her last night. They now appear to be the most popular girls in the school, and seemed more like high school girls than 7th graders. It's like they have "forgotten" her, and I hate that. Although, there were quite a few other girls who included her very naturally last night.
Could it be that "I" am more concerned with Emily's differences than she is??? Sigh..........
Susan