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Post by Claire on Dec 30, 2004 20:14:00 GMT -5
Hey how do I check how many post i have, cause I sure do talk a lot. ;D ;D ;D ;D OOOPS must have been a blonde moment just realized it was written at the bottom. ;D ;D ;D ;D
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Post by Claire on Dec 30, 2004 19:52:03 GMT -5
I agree also with MB. I remember in the first 2 years I was so almost obssessed with the issues with Adam that I think I sometimes forgot to make time for just being a friend. I did discuss it with a few of my friends who said I was right. So from that moment we made a deal. If I needed to really dicuss something and needed support they would listen, but we also in the meantime made time to go to a movie or just chat over coffee, no DS talk at all. I know it is hard and no-one that hasn't been there cannot understand how it sometimes become overpowering for us to focus on life being so perfect. It seems like we breath it every day for the first year. At least I know I did. But in order to be a better person, a better mom I found that accepting Adam just the way he was and going on with our lives made it a lot less stressful in our lives. I do not worry anymore about what he cannot do but thank God for what he can do. As for the future, well no-one really knows, so why worry about it now. We are not in denial but have prioratized our lives. If problems arise with Adam that we need to talk about it we do, but other then that being a mom and him being my child has been most benificial to both.
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Post by Claire on Dec 30, 2004 19:53:45 GMT -5
Welcome and I'm sure you will enjoy this site, it is like a big family. Looking forward to seeing more of your posting. Claire, Adam's mom.
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Post by Claire on Dec 30, 2004 0:42:46 GMT -5
I am so sorry I was so late in sending the cards. I had done them all but they never got to the mailbox. I received a lot of them and they are all beautiful I have sent them yesterday so I guess instead of Merry Christmas read it as Happy New Year.
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Post by Claire on Dec 28, 2004 22:18:38 GMT -5
Thanks for the link. I checked it out a bit and it seems like a good one to keep in my favorites.
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Post by Claire on Dec 30, 2004 0:39:19 GMT -5
Don't ever appologize for venting. You all know I've done plenty of it. I think the teacher may be the way to go if you don't intend on getting involved straight on. It is a very hard decision to make but a little girl's life is at stake. Even if her physical state is not, her emotional state will be. As for the phone I would get a private number that I would only disclose to the daughter. And as for the taxation stuff, it may be wise that you make a simple call to the Taxation department and give them her name so they can audit. ;D ;D They will do it without your name being given. It can be done anonymously. Just tell them you are a tax payer and it drives you nuts to see people like her take advantage of your tax maney. They will look into it. As for you boyfriend, you are such a wonderful person to stand by him in all this, I hope he knows how sweet and caring you are. The best thing to do for him is be there and support him emotionally. It must be so hard for him to know that his daughter is not treated right and feel he cannot do anything about it. As for going to the autorities about her harrassing him, he can certainly do it, maybe a letter from his lawyer may set her straight. I used to have a friend who was like that. The ex-husband paid lots of money for child support and she would go as far as send the kids off to her parents when he would come to visit. Some people just don't have a sole and don't care who gets hurt in the process, which is usually the child. You don't say how old is your step-daughter but in most States a child can make the decision on where they want to live at the age of 12. Good luck and you can vent anytime or e-mail me at my personal address. Just write UNO MAS in the subject line. Claire
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Post by Claire on Dec 28, 2004 22:25:29 GMT -5
You know we tell our children to tell and keep telling until someone hears them if something like this happens. Well she has talked and I definitely think something should be done, especially with the bf being there. Maybe you could ask for a private meeting with your husband and teacher and explain to her what his daughter has said, and considering your situation if she would talk to the child and then get the proper people involved. Teachers are trained fro these kind of situations. And who know she may actually have her suspicions too to back you up. Hope this helps. I'll keep you and your step-daughter in my prayers.
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Post by Claire on Dec 19, 2004 21:22:09 GMT -5
Wonderful artist. My husband is also an artist and thinks he definitely has potential. Sorry we don't know anyone for sponsership. But don't quit looking, he will get recognized. His talent is a gift.
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Post by Claire on Dec 18, 2004 22:59:03 GMT -5
Just letting you know we finally got Faryn home last night. What a precious dog. Adam and Savannah bonded right away and so did we. We went shopping for her Christmas gift today and it's a good thing we had credit cards. ;D ;D I guess we should have left the kids at home. ;D She has such good manners that I am thinking of asking the National Service Dogs team to send them my kids for training. ;D ;D ;D I posted 2 pictures of her and Adam takin this morning.
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Post by Claire on May 13, 2005 6:52:04 GMT -5
Behavior Labelling If an adult is reinforced for behaving properly, we call it recognition. If a child is reinforced for behaving properly, we call it bribery.
If an adult laughs, we call it socializing. If a child laughs, we call it misbehaving.
If an adult writes in a book, we call it doodling. If a child writes in a book, we call it destroying property.
If an adult sticks to something, we call it perserverance. If a child sticks to something, we call it stubborness.
If an adult seeks help, we call it consulting. If a child seeks help, we call it whining.
If an adult is not paying attention, we call it preoccupation. If a child is not paying attention, we call it distractibility.
If an adult forgets something, we call it absentmindedness. If a child forgets something, we call it retardation.
If an adult tells their side of the story, we call it clarification. If a child tells their side of the story, we call it talking back.
If an adult raises their voice in anger, we call it maintaining control. If a child raises their voice in anger, we call it a temper tantrum. If an adult hits a child, we call it discipline. If a child hits a child, we call it fighting.
If an adult behaves in an unusual way, we call them unique. If a child behaves in an unusual way, we refer them for psychological evaluation.
Sad isn't it ??
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Post by Claire on Dec 16, 2004 21:25:57 GMT -5
Sorry wrblack. You are right. I asked Sandy and she said that Fyran is Kacie's sister on the national Dog Service website. Thanks for the link I am reading it in a minute.
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Post by Claire on Dec 15, 2004 22:35:21 GMT -5
I am so bad. I was so excited about getting the dog that I even mispelled her name. Must be my French ;D ;Dor maybe just my grammar ;D ;D Her name is Faryn and not Falyn. Dave is going to get her tomorrow and should be back home Friday. We are all very excited about this. I am posting a picture of my friend with her autistic little boy and his dog at our Christmas party for people with intellectual disabilities. Every year I host a party for them with donations and stuff that I get from the communitty. This year we had 63 with their family or siblings. My friends name is Sandy, her son is Devon and their dog's name is Chester. Our Faryn is Chester's sister. She looks exactly like him.
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Post by Claire on May 13, 2005 6:49:07 GMT -5
Well Adam is doing fine. He is scheduled for surgery on September 26th 2005. It takes so long to get an appointment for surgery in Ottawa. We live a 10hour drive from Ottawa and had to go for a 15 minute appointment in order for the Eurologist to tell us he neded surgery and it had to be booked first. THA!!! we already knew all this. We had his IPRC meeting last week and it went wonderful. I went prepared this time. I got a behavior specialist to go in and access 2 mths before the meeting, I had everyone involved with Adam, OT, speech, ect..... What I really wanted was life skills for Adam has he is the only child here in Cochrane with DS, they expect miricales from him and push him too much. He gets frustrated so then acts up. I blankly told them that even though he knows how to read and print on a computer at a grade 1 level (he is in grade one) that they are not making a poster child out of him. Don't get me wrong it is a real bonus that he loves reading and typing but life skills are also important too. He is going to grade 2 next fall with a different curriculum. The lady for the board Of Director for Special ED told me " But Mrs. Wright he is so bright" So I asked her " Is he getting your job in 20 years: So lets be realistic here and teach him some accademics but also life skills. After all even though I agree he is really bright he still is only 2-3 years old emotionally. So I won my fight after 3 years Adam's curriculum has been changed from sitting in a classroom all day to learning some life skills like safety on the street, behavior in restaurant, paying for stuff and simple meal preparation. He is also starting to work pretty good with the training with his dog Faryn. I haven't been on the site much as my husband just started his new business and we have been pretty busy but just to let you know Ive missed all of you terribly. Claire
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Post by Claire on Dec 15, 2004 22:52:25 GMT -5
Too funny ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D Adam is the same, it's like my kid has no hips. All pants fall down. We call him Plumber Man. ;D ;D
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Post by Claire on Dec 13, 2004 21:45:30 GMT -5
Debi I seen a working dog in action with my friend's son who is 13 and Autistic. Their dog made quite a difference in their lives. Their son has also learned to make eye contact and actually show emotion with the dog, which is very hard to do for an autistic child. When the trainer from National Service dogs came to deliver her dog I went over so they could meet Adam and they told me they sometimes have dogs that are disqaualified for different reasons but are still great dogs that are trained. So instead of waisting all the work and talent of these dogs they give them to special needs kids that may need some companionship. Faryn will not be a working dog, she will be a pet but with manners. ;D She will be of great help for companionship for Adam especially as he gets older and the peers kind of not associate with him anymore. Also she is trained for crossing the street and such things. So basically we will be training Adam to respond to Faryn. Like when she stops at the stop sign that means he has to stop and look for cars, ect.... She is beautiful. I don't know where you are from but in Canada here is the link. It tells you exactly what to do on the site. If you are not from Canada e-mail them and tell them where you are from and they may be able to tell you who to contact in your area. www.nsd.on.ca/
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