Post by Jackie on Oct 18, 2012 11:11:01 GMT -5
Emily's texts to older sister Marnie are indicative of the changes we have had in our lives in regards to Emily being gone from home for so long. Emily asked Marnie if "Katie is like mother"...not exactly sure how she meant it...but Marnie assured her that Katie was still her "sister".
I have finally come to terms with the fact that I need to defer to Katie when helping make decisions in Emily's life and I am ok for the most part with it now. I have also stopped feeling guilty that Katie has stepped in where we cannot be.
This has been a hard year for us with Emily as there was a bad incident that still is not resolved. Katie and Marnie stepped in and have made all the right decisions. She was involved in a bad sexual assualt (not rape) with a driver. Lots of counseling has been needed as well as hoping we will be able to prosecute sometime down the line.
Katie has of course absorbed the brunt of this by the fact she lives close by (we are more than 500 miles away). To take Emily to the counseling sessions require a 110 round trip for her. Katie is a saint in my opinion and has risen to the occasion beautifully. Despite having to step in for me she has managed to keep her relationship with Emily as that of a sibling...rather than a care giver which is very important. I know that Emily joins Katie and Marnie in humorously dissing "mom" and that is just as it should be.
There is still a bit of a void in my life without her here but everything we have done through the years has made it possible for her to live away...and she is there by her own choice.
Not sure why I am writing this...guess I just want to emote LOL and can't really do this on something as public as FB.
I hope we do get Uno active again...I miss you all.
Jackie
I have finally come to terms with the fact that I need to defer to Katie when helping make decisions in Emily's life and I am ok for the most part with it now. I have also stopped feeling guilty that Katie has stepped in where we cannot be.
This has been a hard year for us with Emily as there was a bad incident that still is not resolved. Katie and Marnie stepped in and have made all the right decisions. She was involved in a bad sexual assualt (not rape) with a driver. Lots of counseling has been needed as well as hoping we will be able to prosecute sometime down the line.
Katie has of course absorbed the brunt of this by the fact she lives close by (we are more than 500 miles away). To take Emily to the counseling sessions require a 110 round trip for her. Katie is a saint in my opinion and has risen to the occasion beautifully. Despite having to step in for me she has managed to keep her relationship with Emily as that of a sibling...rather than a care giver which is very important. I know that Emily joins Katie and Marnie in humorously dissing "mom" and that is just as it should be.
There is still a bit of a void in my life without her here but everything we have done through the years has made it possible for her to live away...and she is there by her own choice.
Not sure why I am writing this...guess I just want to emote LOL and can't really do this on something as public as FB.
I hope we do get Uno active again...I miss you all.
Jackie