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Post by dannysmom on Aug 28, 2005 22:30:09 GMT -5
This is a great idea. Let's all send an email. Together and for our kids...we can do it!!
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Post by dannysmom on Aug 28, 2005 23:11:34 GMT -5
Debbie,
Thank you so much for your response and for sharing your feelings. I agree with you too, life is precious. Education is the key, and that is why I think the Oprah show is a great idea. I am going to send my email right away. If we all do it, maybe Ds will be a focus of her show.
Just my thoughts...but you would be a fantastic guest on her show.
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Post by dannysmom on Aug 28, 2005 23:03:06 GMT -5
Christie,
I completely understand your point and if I am being honest, I didn't look at it the way you explained it until now. I was looking at it through the eyes of a mother of a child with Ds, not just as a mom.
I do not agree with abortion no matter what the health of the child is. In exteme cases of violence or incest, it is my opinion that abortion can be considered, when a child is created from a violent act. My children were born from love and were wanted, I know that everyones life isn't like mine, so I am no position to judge what another person does. I believe in the end, we are all responsbile for our actions...Just my personal opinion, I know we all have our own beliefs that we are entitled to.
So I am asking myself, am I prochoice or prolife....I guess I would consider myself prochoice, but with the hope that life is always the choice a woman would make.
That being said, my friend told me because I had already suspected that is what happened. The girl and I had miscarriages around the same time, we talked about it at a shower we sat together at.
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Post by dannysmom on Aug 28, 2005 18:17:31 GMT -5
I realize this is a very difficult topic to discuss, but it has been on my mind more than it should, and I was hoping to get your thoughts on it.
A very close friend of ours told me that her cousin (whom I know, but only as an acquaintance) terminated her pregnancy due Ds. She told me that her cousins doctor told her the baby was going to have many problems and wasn't going to make it. She told everyone she miscarried.
First let me start by saying that I realize everyone has their right to choose. What I need some help with is....I can't stop feeling so bad that so many women would rather not have a baby, than to have my son. I love him so much..and that thought brings me to tears. I want the best for him and I don't want anyone looking at me feeling bad for me or him. Does everyone have these feelings or am I just going through what every new mom to a child with Ds goes through?
I know I will run into this women from time to time and I wish I didn't have this knowledge about her but I do.
What are you thoughts on this? Thanks everyone.
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Post by dannysmom on Aug 29, 2005 17:59:21 GMT -5
May he rest in peace. My prayers are with his family.
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Post by dannysmom on Aug 28, 2005 23:16:58 GMT -5
My prayers are with this young man and his family. Please let him return home safely.
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Post by dannysmom on Aug 28, 2005 19:10:41 GMT -5
My prayers are with you all. Once it passes, please let us know you are safe.
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Post by dannysmom on Aug 26, 2005 19:07:07 GMT -5
Have you all seen the crib tents? They have them for regular cribs as well as pack and plays. We bought both because my daughter started climbing out of her crib at 14 months.
Needless to say it was way too early for a toddler bed at that time. We put on the crib tent. At first I didn't really like the idea..but we had no choice. She was way to young to be in a toddler bed, but big enough to climb (or worse, fall) out of the crib. She was young enough not to really care there was a tent over her crib...but with older kids..maybe you could make it a cool thing to have a tent over the crib.
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Post by dannysmom on Aug 25, 2005 18:49:41 GMT -5
Alice,
I agree, there certainly isn't anything wrong with being Mongolian or any other nationality. But that is exactly why I take offense to the term. Our children are not their own nationality. However, I agree with you...stupid or idiot are words that shouldn't be used to describe any human being. Those words are cruel no matter what context they are used in.
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Post by dannysmom on Aug 24, 2005 20:54:34 GMT -5
I just read the posting about the M word, and now I am in a foul mood. As a new mom to Ds, I find some people in this world totally insensitive.
One of my mothers cousins just heard that I had a baby with Ds. She called my aunt up and said...."I heard Lisa had a sick baby". My aunt replied "what are you talking about...her baby isn't sick, he just has Ds". My aunt is a former social worker and her brother in law has Ds, so she is older but NOT from the old school. She is an amazing woman along with my mom, have helped me more than I could ever describe.
Anyway, I pray everyday my son never knows how people with Ds were once treated. I cry for every soul out there that was never given the chance at life because their mother didn't want a baby with Ds. I love my son more than anything and his life has value, meaning and he has the right to be here like every person with 46, 47 or or however many chromosomes people have.
I am sorry for my tone in this email, I don't mean to be foul, but I hate the M word. My son is 25% irish, 75% italian...0% mongolian. I have never even been to Mongolia.
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Post by dannysmom on Aug 24, 2005 21:16:35 GMT -5
I'll bet she was encouraged to give up her Ds baby. My aunts brother is law has Ds. He is about 48 now. His mom has passed, but would be in her 80's now (probaby around the age of this woman). My aunt told me that when he was born, he was put in a seperate nursery away from other children. She didn't even see him for 3 days. They told her she shouldn't take him home, that he should be institutionalized. Thank God she knew better and insisted she see her son immediately..took him home, raised and loved him. He lived with his parents until their passing. Currently he lives in a supervised assisted living home with 2 other men with Ds. He has a girlfriend, enjoys singing and dancing, playing cards, sports and music. He goes to all family functions and has a great time!!! Imagine his life if he was institutionalized. What was society thinking back then?
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Post by dannysmom on Aug 24, 2005 20:25:40 GMT -5
What a great video, congrats to Hannah!!
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Post by dannysmom on Aug 24, 2005 20:40:35 GMT -5
I hate the word. I read it in a book not too long ago and I agree with andrewsmom...it feels like a punch in the stomach.
I am very sorry for your daughters loss, a miscarriage is devestating. I had one before my daughter and I still know what my due date was.
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Post by dannysmom on Aug 24, 2005 20:33:01 GMT -5
You are definately NOT failing at this. If you allowed it, let her do what she wanted because it was easier....that is failing. The fact you are asking for help means one thing......you are a mother who cares for her children more than anything. We should all give ourselves a break now and then, knowing we are doing the best we can everyday.
Lisa
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Post by dannysmom on Aug 24, 2005 20:11:39 GMT -5
My prayers are with this little one. It breaks my heart. While I was in the hospital with my son during his surgery, the little boy in the bed next to us was in foster care. I pray for all foster children, I always pray they find families to love them.
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